If being a woman in today's society was a hashtag, it would probably look something like this: #BossLikeAGirl!!!
Personally, I know more women entrepreneurs, professionals, in positions of power, with multiple degrees, with multiple jobs and with multiple lives than ever before. And these are young women. The most recent example of this is a young woman who quit her job on her 27th birthday to go into business for herself.
Women are able to adapt at the drop of a hat.
"This week's check was short. Okay. Lemme wait to get... Now carry on."
We hold the weight of the stress of having to make suddenly inconvenient changes without sweating or stumbling. You see, sweat ruins our make-up and stumbling scuffs our shoes.
When German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsch first stated "That which does not kill us, only makes us stronger," I'm almost sure he'd been observing women.
Just this week alone, I had to jump back into life as if my child hadn't been sick the week before. Then there was the laundry, the housekeeping, the shopping, the groceries, the cooking, more housekeeping, the broken pipe under the kitchen sink, the flood that alerted me to the broken pipe, the plumber, homeschool lesson, Sunday school preparation (for a class I'm teaching), keeping up with information for the Lupus walk, adjusting the budget, crafting a menu and drafting new grocery and shopping lists.
I'm sure I left something out. But I'm more certain of the fact that I did all of these things, while my husband was at work, without him feeling the stress of it when he got home. My goal is to always make my home a place of peace for the people who live in it.
And because I am the woman of the house, I control the peace-o-meter. See, Jeff Foxworthy was on point when he said, "I know if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy."
And yet, I find ways to magnify my errors, short-comings and forgetful moments better than anybody else ever could. I am so hard on myself when I don't meet my own expectations, even though I usually fall short when I'm falling ill or about to fall-out from exhaustion.
I know me better than anyone does, and I use this knowledge against myself. When I mess up, I'm reminded of every other time I failed in a similar manner. I could meet 10 goals and get bummed out for not reaching the 11th.
Recently, I've lost 75 lbs and I'm miserable about the 6 lbs that won't leave and let me be great.
And I know I'm not the only woman who does this. I especially know that being a mom can have you telling yourself how inadequate you are.
That's why I'm taking a stand. From this moment forward, I will
1. Acknowledge my mistakes long enough to learn from them, but not a second longer.
2. Verbalize my "well-done" when I've done a good job.
3. Be intentional in my satisfaction about where I am, without losing sight on continual growth.
4. Stop with the inner criticism, because there's enough in the world to go around.
Finally, I will encourage other women in this struggle. Feeling like a failure is such a lonely place to be. So I will use my light to shine on boss moments in the lives of other women.
Signed,
A Newly Domesticated (BOSS) Lady
Personally, I know more women entrepreneurs, professionals, in positions of power, with multiple degrees, with multiple jobs and with multiple lives than ever before. And these are young women. The most recent example of this is a young woman who quit her job on her 27th birthday to go into business for herself.
Women are able to adapt at the drop of a hat.
"This week's check was short. Okay. Lemme wait to get... Now carry on."
We hold the weight of the stress of having to make suddenly inconvenient changes without sweating or stumbling. You see, sweat ruins our make-up and stumbling scuffs our shoes.
When German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsch first stated "That which does not kill us, only makes us stronger," I'm almost sure he'd been observing women.
Just this week alone, I had to jump back into life as if my child hadn't been sick the week before. Then there was the laundry, the housekeeping, the shopping, the groceries, the cooking, more housekeeping, the broken pipe under the kitchen sink, the flood that alerted me to the broken pipe, the plumber, homeschool lesson, Sunday school preparation (for a class I'm teaching), keeping up with information for the Lupus walk, adjusting the budget, crafting a menu and drafting new grocery and shopping lists.
I'm sure I left something out. But I'm more certain of the fact that I did all of these things, while my husband was at work, without him feeling the stress of it when he got home. My goal is to always make my home a place of peace for the people who live in it.
And because I am the woman of the house, I control the peace-o-meter. See, Jeff Foxworthy was on point when he said, "I know if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy."
And yet, I find ways to magnify my errors, short-comings and forgetful moments better than anybody else ever could. I am so hard on myself when I don't meet my own expectations, even though I usually fall short when I'm falling ill or about to fall-out from exhaustion.
I know me better than anyone does, and I use this knowledge against myself. When I mess up, I'm reminded of every other time I failed in a similar manner. I could meet 10 goals and get bummed out for not reaching the 11th.
Recently, I've lost 75 lbs and I'm miserable about the 6 lbs that won't leave and let me be great.
And I know I'm not the only woman who does this. I especially know that being a mom can have you telling yourself how inadequate you are.
That's why I'm taking a stand. From this moment forward, I will
1. Acknowledge my mistakes long enough to learn from them, but not a second longer.
2. Verbalize my "well-done" when I've done a good job.
3. Be intentional in my satisfaction about where I am, without losing sight on continual growth.
4. Stop with the inner criticism, because there's enough in the world to go around.
Finally, I will encourage other women in this struggle. Feeling like a failure is such a lonely place to be. So I will use my light to shine on boss moments in the lives of other women.
Signed,
A Newly Domesticated (BOSS) Lady
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